Every day we experience something new here! These past few weeks we’ve had quite a share of them. It makes me wonder what our neighbors will awe us with when they’ve exhausted their arsenal of cultural wonders (we should be safe there for QUITE some time). Some of the activities and insights have been especially interesting to us; maybe they will to you, also.
One Friday afternoon, two young guys (whom I recognized as our neighborhood “public broadcast system”) came to our house to extend an invitation to come to a _________ at a neighbor’s house that Sunday morning. Since the blank wasn’t filled in with the original version (at least not the way my brain read it) I gladly agreed to be there, closed the door and began wondering. With a few nonchalant questions put to some kids playing nearby—“Is anything going on this weekend?”, “So, what’s Mr. Soandso doing on Sunday?”—I discovered that I was going to be participating in a Sunatan. For those who aren’t familiar with this religious coming-of-age ceremony, you can check your Indonesian-English dictionary (the way I had to) and find that it is a party thrown for a teenaged boy when he is circumcised. As you might imagine, I was a little leery of just showing up at a party like that. Thankfully, these kinds of events are attended by nearly everyone in the area; while at church earlier that morning I found someone whom I could tag along with (and found there is even a word for “tag along”…what luck). So we went together and I was able to ask a lot of questions (just like a toddler, especially since I talk like a 2 year old) and get a small understanding of the culture behind the event. I also learned how to react when the tarp strung over your head for protection funnels monsoon rain in torrents onto a crowd of dapperly dressed guests—that one was pretty easy: DIVE for dry ground! In all, the first sunatan was very interesting and I hope that I learned some things that will help with the next one that I accidentally accept an invitation to.
That same day, Amy and G went to a wedding down the street from our house. I say down the street, but it was technically “in the street”. Like most big gatherings here, the only space large enough for the crowd lies between two curbs (or in our case, two raging drainage ditches). They were happy to be introduced to the bride and groom, share some food, tea, and conversation with other neighbors, and find out what makes a wedding here different (and the same as) a wedding back home. One difference that Amy pointed out was that usually, the guests at an American wedding are not invited to tour the bridal suite during the reception (at least none we’ve been to…you might have experienced otherwise).
Later that week, another neighborhood event was arranged when a woman in our community died unexpectedly. This was another experience that I stumbled upon in my ignorant willingness to accept any invitation. As it happened, one of her sons was out of town (out of island, really) and would miss his own mothers’ funeral, since it is imperative that the deceased be buried the same day they die. Word got out that I—the curious white guy—had a camcorder, so the family decided to ask me to capture the sad happenings for the returning son. I was a bit nervous to play so vital a role in my first Indonesian funeral, but luckily a family member (who had better access to whatever was happening inside the house of mourning) borrowed the camera and took all the video that was needed. The next day, the son arrived and watched the DVD we had burned of his mom’s funeral. I really hope that my insignificant contribution of a few minutes of video editing may have comforted a grieving heart. It was hard to sit and watch the footage, though, knowing that the bundle of white cloth that was laid into the muddy Javanese grave held an empty body. It was harder still to imagine what awaited the spirit who had recently vacated that body.
Whether they are wedding celebrations, circumcision parties, or funerals, the things that happen every day here are more than just social gatherings. These are windows into the minds and souls of our neighbors. Our ministry goal for this period of language study is to become as Indonesian as possible in order to communicate as clearly as possible. We have a much needed message of hope and joy, but we are (and forever will be) limited in the way that we share it here. Please pray that we will find acceptable and penetrating ways to interact with Indonesians so that message will get through.
In other news:
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G is wearing underwear, using the toilet, and loving it!
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We finally bought a motorcycle (we were waiting to get Indonesian licenses first) so we finally have a means of self conveyance.
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And we will taking evaluations Friday (the last day of classes for the first unit of language study) to determine how MUCH we still need to learn.
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My parents arrive in a few weeks for a quick visit on their way home from a trip to Papua New Guinea.
I apologize if your coffee got cold while you read this email. We feel like so much has happened here lately that we really wanted to let you in on some of it. There are so many other stories and laughs to be shared about these and other events! Remind me to bring them out of the vault when we need something talk about.
We need and depend upon your prayers. Thank you!
Michael Hutteman